Exploitation is the presence of one person who is a beneficiary and another person who is not a beneficiary, and this is the opposite of the normal state of transactions. The basic principle is that both parties are in a state of benefit, otherwise an imbalance occurs. When a person falls into a state of exploitation, he must first know that he is responsible and that he is unconsciously the one who has allowed this situation to occur. Speak up, and being in charge is great because he is the one who will simply solve the issue, but if he blames someone else, he will simply continue to suffer as well.

What attracts exploiters to your life?

- When you are in a state of loss of confidence

- When you lose your self-esteem and look for appreciation from others

- When you internally underestimate your value and see that you are less than others and try to (buy) your value from them

Underestimating your value is the first step that makes you fall victim to exploitation. A person who does positive things out of a desire for people to see him well derives his value from others, and this unconsciously makes him fall prey to their exploitation of him. He may do so under the name of altruism, and this is a grave mistake that makes him the first person to do so. He is happy, then after his energy is exhausted and he becomes unable to give, then he is surprised that the people around him have disappeared from his life because they are accustomed to exploiting him and taking from him without giving him anything. They are also accustomed to benefiting from only one party, and this is what attracts negative situations into his life. It also attracts more exploiters

When you sacrifice for the sake of others, this means that you do things that you do not want against your will in the hope that it will improve your image in front of the other or that he will give you the reaction you want of appreciation and respect. The evidence that your behavior is not correct is that you will feel a bad state of negative emotions if the other does not appreciate it. What you did or he treated you badly, or what you are doing is an acquired right for which you should not be thanked.

Sacrifice and putting pressure on yourself are not altruism at all. Altruism is more wonderful than this bad state because altruism is for God and the centrality of God, and you are in a state of giving with enjoyment without expecting anything from the other. Indeed, if the other treats you with abuse, you will be at the peak of high feelings because you are sincerely proving yourself before yourself. That your action was for God and not for the person, and it also increases in positive action, and this is a state that only a person with high awareness and high faith can do.

The sacrificer lives by the principle that I am not important, the other is important, and this is the opposite of what religion commands us to do. What is important is you, then the other. (O you who have believed, you have yourselves) and in another verse (it is not upon you to guide them). If you follow this verse and what is important is you and then the other, you will always be in a positive state and you will be able to give with enjoyment throughout your life without being negatively affected and without expecting anything from anyone, for you will derive a reward. Your giving is from the Lord of humanity, then you will be surprised by the transformation of the relationships around you in the most wonderful way possible

4 practical steps to end exploitation:

1- Be aware that you are the reason and make your decision to end this situation, regardless of the results

2- Dealing with the principle: I am the beneficiary, then the other, me first, then the other second

3- Learn to say no. Say it forcefully if you find that what is asked of you is negatively affecting your feelings or putting pressure on you

4- Know your value before God, and your value before people does not matter. You are a successor with God. Be free for God, and people’s opinion of you does not matter.

If you follow these four steps, you will definitely see a wonderful improvement in your life, but expect some negatives from the exploiters when they see you starting to transform, so be careful of their emotional blackmail of you in the beginning and be strong, persistent and steadfast.